Modern Day Advice for Young People

A young lady of my acquaintance posted to their Facebook feed the following:

Here is the dialog that followed between us.

Decide what kind of person you want to be in a relationship with. 

Think about where they hang out, and go there. 

Determine what character traits they will find attractive, and change accordingly.

What?

What are you asking me to explain?

I do not understand what your comment means, and what it has to do with what I posted

You posted Jacquelyn Michelle's photo, containing advice for girls. 

I replied with my advice. 

Which is gender-neutral.

Why? And why is that your advice. I really don't understand.

Why do I give that advice? 

I expect for the same reason you shared Jacquelyn Michelle's advice. 

To share an opinion with people who follow your facebook feed.  

That is my advice because it's effective.
  

It's not really about life advice in general, it's about empowering girls specifically.

  

What I wrote is not life advice in general, 

it's about how anyone who wishes to be in a relationship should modify themselves.

It's not quite applicable to this situation/ this post.

If a girl follows Jacquelyn Michelle's advice, how will the people around her react?

Well, the post is basically telling girls to disregard that. A lot of how we are taught and expected to act is putting others' comfort ahead of our own, and that's not fair.

I agree that girls are socialized to have poor boundaries

 and that they should not set aside their comfort for boy's egos. 

But I feel that someone would be harmed 

if they adopted all of Jacquelyn Michelle's list of behaviors. 

So I instead provided my advice 

on how to decide what behaviors to show the world.

Thank you for messaging & explaining! I understand what you mean now.

Facebook is somewhat like twitter 

in the amount of content you can provide in the limited bandwidth

I don't expect all of that post's advice to apply in every situation, that would be rude & not practical. But it's nice to promote the idea that it is an option, especially for girls that have been socialized to be polite to the point that it puts them in an unsafe position.

And yeah, the first time I read your comment it came across a little aggravated & I was confused as to why. I only deleted it because I have some particularly aggressive Facebook friends and I'd rather avoid conflict with them and all.

Time for some snark: 

Isn't censoring your facebook page 

because of aggressive friends an example of catering to other people's egos?

Yes, people started liking comments & they tend to think everything is a fight and they all want to get in on it

And it's less catering to them and more catering to myself-- I don't check Facebook/get notifications and I didn't really want to come back to a full out typed argument about something you & I settled reasonably.